It is really better to focus on the positive aspects of the personality than the negative this is a way of allowing creative energy to flow between people.
“Sometimes someone will be sick, and a daughter or someone who loves a sick person will say, “Abraham, I’m wanting to help this person.” And we say, just hold the image of them in a place of utter Well-being, and trust that through the path of least resistance, either they will recover and Well-being will be restored here, or they will withdraw and Well-being will be restored there. But in either case, whether they stay or whether they have what you call death experience, the Well-being is always restored. Whether it is someone who has just been bipping along in physical experience who has been meditating, who knows the sweetness of Connection on a day-to-day basis, who says, “Ah, this life experience has been so wonderful and I think I will now turn my attention to another aspect of my life experience,” closes their eyes as they put themselves in the bed, make the transition, and they are discovered as having made their transition in the night. Or whether they have some violent experience, where at the gun of an enemy, or the gun of someone violent, or a car crash they make their transition. As they make their transition, ultimately it is still the same experience.”